Pottery drama revisited

Whenever I mention the phrase “pottery drama” to my friends, they look at me like I’m crazy. Mud + soap opera? Sounds ridiculous, doesn’t it? But the fact that it’s an oxymoron doesn’t mean it isn’t true. I have been tempted to blog about it quite a few times already, but have abstained in favor of taking the high road.

But this morning I was traumatized by a photograph. Thumbing through a friend’s blog that I follow, I happened to unexpectedly come across a photo of my nemesis.

I originally posted this with a long, general paragraph here about all the things she did to me. In retrospect, I deleted that since it’s not my goal here to seem vindictive. The last thing I want to do is to seem like I’m the backstabber here.

Suffice it to say that I never quite figured out what her problem with me was, but her behavior towards me was enough that I gradually became terrified of her and felt victimized. It got to the point that if I saw her in the hallway my hands would start to shake. This went on for over two years. Then finally the powers that be decided that it was time for her to move on and away.

It’s been over a year since I last saw her, and I haven’t given her much more than a passing thought in all that time. But then I saw that photo this morning. Just a normal everyday snapshot of this woman, that nonetheless made my blood pressure rise and my heart start thumping with anxiety. I had thought it was long past me, but because of a stupid photo, for hours now I’ve been able to get nothing done but think about her. I feel nervous, stressed out, and anxious, and it’s pissing me off that she’s still able to get that kind of reaction out of me.

I’m a grown adult. I have the perfect life, a husband I adore, and a gorgeous child that I dote upon. Surely I should be able to put something nasty like this far, far behind me?

4 Responses to “Pottery drama revisited”

  1. David Says:

    Now, if you were a man, a mean, not-very sophisticated man, which is most of us men, a good butt-kicking would have released all the pent-up anxiety you are carrying. It would not matter who was at the losing end of the butt-kicking.
    Your reaction is quite normal for someone who probably uses advanced techniques to resolve conflict, such as dialogue.
    But the real reason why I am replying here is that you cannot, for the love of Pete, say that there was juicy stuff in your post that you then DELETED! That is not fair to those of us not so advanced who generally resolve our conflicts with not-so-advanced methods.
    I am just saying…

    PS: Otherwise I rather enjoy reading your blog.

  2. diana Says:

    Ha! You funny. :)

    Well, the real reason I deleted it is because I am a tease. No, just kidding! It’s because I realized that there might be people here in the immediate community that know her and read my blog, and that it just might get back to her, and that she might get mad enough to come clobber me and stab my cats.

    I can say what’s pretty common knowledge though, which was that three separate times she screamed at me, cussing a nasty blue streak at the top of her lungs (once when I was three months pregnant). So you can see how far diplomacy got me. :)

  3. Rose Says:

    I want to hear more about this in person. 😉 However, I agree fully with your reasons for not writing about it in more detail on your blog. Besos! Rose

  4. CRS Says:

    That woman was toxic. She SUCKED! BEYOND ABUSIVE! So:

    1) of course you freaked out when you saw her photo and
    2) thank GOD it wasn’t the real thing and you will never have to cross paths with her again and
    3) just know that any reaction you have is because she was incredibly horrible to you and it’s natural. You know, the fight or flight thing. And to respond to your friend above, I kinda think if you ever went male about this and decided to FIGHT, you’d feel a lot better. And you’d also kick her ass.


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